Damn / for fuck’s sake — Spain’s all-purpose expletive.
In Spain this is punctuation. ¡Joder! for surprise, frustration, admiration, pain. *No me jodas* means "you’re kidding me". *Joderse* means something broke or got ruined. You will hear it from almost everyone, including people who are not angry.
An old verb meaning to copulate, long since worn down into a general-purpose exclamation.
Genuinely vulgar, just extremely normalised in Spain. In Mexico or Colombia it lands much harder — do not carry Spain’s casualness across the Atlantic.
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